Here's a taste from the latest article, WHEN WOMEN CHEAT, from Soapbox Therapy on HerExchange...

Dear Stuck,  

You are so brave and fabulous for writing in, admitting your indiscretions, and reaching out. Thank you for you. Before I even begin to respond to your amazing and important question, I want to apologize and ask for your forgiveness.

The reason: I’m not really going to answer your question in the way you were hoping.

"Romance has become more about what we think we're supposed to do, and less about the person we're doing it for." -Brooke Miller, Soapbox Therapy

Check out my interview on Associated Content to hear more from the article "Tips On What Men Find Romantic"

Dear Brooke, I'm a senior in college, and I have yet to date anyone at university. Since a bad [read: traumatizing] experience with a now-ex boyfriend in high school, I have yet to take steps towards pursuing anyone.

I've always been a fairly soft-spoken person, but in high school, I used to be really outgoing when it came to pursuing a love interest. Recently, I just came out as bisexual, and I'm constantly overwhelmed by the number of single, sexy and smart men and women at my university. (YAY!) I just can't find it within myself to take the first step: asking a guy or girl out for coffee/dinner/a date/sex seems is incredibly daunting for me.

Does this make me weird? How would you suggest I build up my self-confidence when it comes to dating? Thank you! I love the site :) 

The She's The CEO question of the week:

Did your friends and family support you when you started your business?

Why yes, yes they did...but I didn't give them much of an option! Check it out...

This month, in preparing for 2011, HerExchange, the fabulous New York-based women's e-zine, is bringing Soapbox Therapy to it's roster of amazing monthly columns! For the December column, a HerExchange reader asked about getting along with family over the holidays while the past year has been anything but cheerful...here's a taste:

"Faking is pretending your feelings don’t exist. Shelf-ing them comes with a certain wisdom– knowing there’s is a time and place, and your feelings deserve to be expressed in a context of respect, not drama."

Check out the entire article HERE!

Hi Brooke, So I'm actually writing on behalf of my friend. My observation of my friend is that she has the cat/mouse complex, I call it. She could care less about guys who are into her, and guys that reject her are taken very deeply and personally and thus pursued in a sexual relationship. Of course, with no way that it develops into something deeper or committal, which is what she deeply deeeeply inside wants, or so she says.

She has all the awareness in the world but hasn’t made the steps to work towards her security. Par Example, She met this dude they dated, he dumped her for some chick who lives in your neck of the woods (We're on the east!) She has pursued a sexual relationship with him with some emotional connection but she knows this relationship ain't goin no where.

She definitely is an ALPHA female, (works in corporate, has some masculine energy, talks about sex all the time and is very opinionated). So knowing her personality type, does this mean she just attracts men that are confused, misleading, passive, and in outer space?

Recently, Good Morning America set out on a search to find an advice guru to support their on-air and on-line viewers. So, naturally, I responded to the call. Here's a taste...

GMA asked..."What would you tell his person: Whenever there is an issue between my mother-in-law and me, my husband refuses to stand up for me. How do I get him to value our relationship more than the one with his mother? (150 words or less)"

So, you won. You got the guy. And now your mother-in-law takes every opportunity to redeem herself as the most important woman in her son’s life. You have two goals here, gorgeous. Your mother-in-law needs to take a step back, and your husband needs to take a step up. How to get there? Befriend his mom. Yes…really. If your husband isn’t standing up for you it’s because he doesn’t want his mom to feel unimportant, or worse, mad at him. If you help your mother-in-law to feel important, she won’t be constantly searching for validation from her son. So ask for her recipe or give her a compliment. It will go further than you ever imagined. You don’t have to love his mom, just make her feel necessary. She’ll back off, and he’ll be standing up for you in no time.

"It seems like an age-old battle: guys want to relax and watch the game and women get annoyed by it. But like with most relationship clashes, there’s more to it than there seems. Brooke breaks it down and explains how everyone can get what they want."-Primer Magazine

Read Soapbox Therapy:The Big F'ing Deal About Football in Primer Magazine HERE!

While some song writers may say all you need is love, resident relationship expert Brooke knows men can also benefit from a swift kick in the pants from the boot of knowledge. Check out her no holds barred advice for a reader confused about the transition from a mostly digital to a mostly long distance relationship...

Read Shit or Get Off The Pot HERE...

"It seems as if the day is upon us, fellow gentlemen. The time of nice guys finishing last has come and gone. It’s simple: play them at their own game. Brooke shows us how."

Click here to read The Modern Day Bad Boy on Primer Magazine!

This month Soapbox Therapy and Primer Magazine give the boys a little somethin' to chew on--here's a taste...

Moral of the story: Don’t be afraid to be confident, women love it…and…know the difference between confidence and cockiness. Confident men know themselves and can stand tall in who they are, cocky men have no idea who they are and do everything they can to convince you otherwise.

Dear Brooke,

Why do we feel guilty when we are happy, or that we don’t deserve things when they are going our way? This is a question my Jewish mother and I ponder frequently! I’m not sure what to make of it. Any thoughts?

Thanks,
JAM

Dear Brooke,

Is job-related depression a real problem, or is it all in our heads?

This may sound stupid, but I feel like everyone is talking still about the "economy" being on the downs and using that as an excuse for why industries are not booming, and why great job openings are few and far between. Before it just seemed like every pseudo-conscious businessman's excuse for not making his quick mill.

A lil' taste of "Dave's" question...

"So the problem is this : every time she receives a rejection letter, every time she comes back from an interview she feels did not go well, every time a friend of hers get hired or gets sworn in as a lawyer, my girlfriend throws a fit. She feels left behind by her friends and by me, and she ends up questioning her entire career choice. I inevitably react badly to these situations, as I’m more of a “grab-life-by-the-cojones” kind of person and don’t see any point in self-pity and crying over things we can’t change. So, typical guy, I propose solutions and come off as insensitive. Voices are raised, tears inevitably come, and strain is put on the relationship..."

A lil' taste of my response...

"Dear Dave, I love that you threw all your cards on the table, coined yourself a “typical guy,” and even identified that proposing solutions does in fact make you come off insensitive. The fact that you wrote in and asked about this tells me that deep down, you are anything but insensitive, which is great news because in order to be the man your sweet woman needs right now, you’re going to have to dig down way past your ‘cojones’, grab all the sensitivity you’ve got, and put it to work. Starting yesterday..."

Check out the latest "Cheeky Dear Abby" article on Cheeky Chicago...

Dear Brooke,

I have significantly moved on from a very traumatic ending to a 7 year relationship and short-lived marriage. It all ended in 2007. I have since remarried and am 5 months pregnant.

Finding the person of your dreams and landing your dream job are two of the most important things to people in their 20’s. So what are you supposed to do when your dream girl says she can’t date you because she’s afraid of messing up her dream job? Brooke has the answer.

Check out the article on Primer Magazine today! But first, a taste...

Dear Brooke,

I wish I knew where to start! I've been married over 30 years....like most women, when I married I had a pretty decent figure. Never had children but I was a smoker for a number of years. After smoking for over 35 years, I QUIT!! I was told by everyone not to worry about gaining weight - even my husband agreed.

Not only did I quit smoking but I also entered into menopause around the same time (can you say double-whammy for weight gain!!) I know I cannot blame everything on these 2 things alone, though.

Dear Brooke – I found your site from Primer and recently read your article on being engaged.

I just became engaged to a wonderful woman who I love very much. We live together, have many of the same tastes and desires and get along great with our respective families. I’m really looking forward to a long and happy life together. There is, naturally, an issue that I can’t seem to get over.

Dear Sad Sweetie,

You’ve been working so unbelievably hard to feel better, my love – so for the next few minutes, just take some deep breaths, keep your tissues close at hand, and let’s take this baggage off your shoulders and do some serious unpacking…

To read the amazing question from SS as well as my full response, click here, and check out www.Cheekychicago.com!!

My relationship with Primer Magazine is still pretty new. I must say, though, we've gotten to know each other pretty quickly and have grown quite fond of one another already. So much so that they've asked me to add some special pieces which will be appropriately titled: Brooke On Boys. Yes, really.

It happens to be the perfect time to celebrate our already flourishing relationship, as Valentines Day is this weekend. So I put a little something together for the boys of Primer called "Why Valentines Day Matters"... because what says I love you more than a special article to make sure the boys don't screw this weekend up...

"Ryan is normally the life of the party, but some nights he calls it off, stays in alone to dick around on the Internet or play video games, and then feels anti-social and guilty for ditching his friends. Is something up? Our expert Brooke weighs in."

...click here to read Soapbox Therapy on Primer Magazine